Wednesday, May 11, 2005

children with special needs....................

Today I had my son's yearly I.E.P. This is for his special education goals. We set new goals and determine if he met his old goals. He is 12 and we have been doing this "yearly" meeting since he was about 3 or 4. I should be used to it right? WRONG!!!!

Every year i'm anxious about the meeting. I leave feeling deflated and sad! I sit around and listen to teachers and therapists tell me what my baby "can't do" It hurts.....It sucks....... They say how kind and polite he is and what a joy he is to have in classes....then they point out ALL his "down falls" and how he just can't quite "CUT IT".......

My baby is deaf in one ear..............he lost his eye at 4 due to an eye infection not treated properly........he has a seizure didorder as of last year..


So why do I get so upset after theese meeting?


Blogger said...

my opinion is that you get upset at this meetings is becuase you want what is best for your child...the best life, the best oppritunities, the best education. And you may feel that becuase he is a special needs child he is not getting the best...BUT we both know he is. You are a great mother and a great inspiration to the rest of us bloggers. You are blessed with that child who loves you unconditionally. He is not a "child with special needs" he is a "special child"!!! luv ya girly!

12:32 PM  
Blogger YouToldHarpoTaBeatMe said...

You get upset after every meeting because 1) you're his mother, and 2) they need to see the potential that YOU see in him.

Speak those things into existence, Sister Girl.

Nothin' but love fo ya, Chica.

4:48 PM  
Blogger Diva said...

Hey baby...Mrs. TJ is exactly right. Our children mean more to us than any one or anything on this earth. When MIL called my twins lazy because they weren't walking at one year old, something welled up inside me so much that I swore I was busting through my clothes and turning a deep shade of green. When they say he "can't quite cut it", do they offer suggestions on what the teachers and therapists can do so they he can "cut it"? Listen to me good when I tell you this babygirl...with Christ, you and your son can do ALL things. Sure, the teachers and therapists are skilled and trained in their field, but only a mother truly knows her child and his/her abilities and capabilities.

Can do anything
Everyone loves him
1000-watt smile
Destined for greatness...

Don't stop Dee...keep the list going. Frame it! Put it in his room! On the freakin' refrigerator! In his lunches! Everywhere! Anywhere!

Your needs will be met pumpkin. Now put a smile on that pretty face of yours and gimme those teachers and therapists numbers so I can tell them to kiss my ass for making you feel sad! LOL Bye baby!

4:51 PM  
Blogger SMW said...

Girl, don't make me go off on them!

Don't let no one tell you what your child can't do. Lord, give us all strength to stand tall despite what the "officials" have to say.

6:43 PM  
Blogger Myrah said...

Ditto on what has already been said. We can really see you love him and do the very best for him. You are a great mom, that's why you get so upset. It's good that you see what they don't. Keep telling him that and he will be just fine!


10:38 PM  
Blogger Nikki said...

Those people are not God. Only God can say what your child can or cannot do. You draw your strength from the man up above and shake them haters off.

6:30 AM  
Blogger Dee said...

Thanks soooo much ladies.....
I have been having theese meetings once a year for the past 8 years but they still upset me so much!!! I know he has sooo much potential but I cant afford private school and I have been searching for a tutor!!! He had one for a few months last year but she left to have a baby!!! He really did well the months he spent after school with her.......I couldn't eally afford it but I managed!!!1

You guys made me feel sooo much better!!! THANKS TO MY BLOG FRIENDS!!!!!

8:08 AM  
Blogger Slim said...

I agree with everyone, especially the part about him being "a special need child" like said "he is a special child." I just wanted to add, that he is a blessing. I know you can handle it because GOD would not have put nothing on you that you couldn't handle. Dee keep your head high and tell them to kiss your assets.

Love ya!

10:21 AM  
Blogger Sheron said...

No one knows your child like you do. Please don't let them discourage you with their words. Keep on doing what you're doing.

Like the others stated, through God, all things are possible.

Keep your head up, lady.

11:36 AM  
Blogger DaKelzz said...

Hey Dee,

I work in a high school and have sat in on an IEP meeting or me, they are not really all that productive, and I say that because, like you said the meetings are supposed to be designed to set future goals as in what the next progressive steps should or would be, not to inform you of what you child cannot do...*smh*

You stay up and just know that anything is possible...*wink*

11:41 AM  
Blogger princessdominique said...

It's sad when therapists and teachers are so "text book". That's what it is, they're following the text and don't fully realize tha--God can.

12:12 PM  
Anonymous Nati said...

Awwww, you feel like that cuz you're his mommie and you see ALL that he is and you want everyone else to see it too, nothing wrong with that and your feelings are quite valid my dear! ***sending you some postive energy today**

4:18 PM  
Blogger Apocalypse said...

ditto what said. Youre a great mom.

8:37 AM  
Blogger Zantiferous3 said...

Girl don't listen to what they say... you get deflated because they see him as a special needs child that's in their class... not as [insert your baby's name here]. They do not believe in him the way you do because they do not love him the way you do. Girl... stay prayerful... there is nothing that can rival the power of a praying mother. =)

1:17 PM  

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