Monday, May 16, 2005

How do I come accross?

I was all set to march into the vice principals office this morning! I've been thinking ALL weekend about how wrong they both are( the v.p and the girls mom).

I remembered I have to pick a friend up for work today. He works near me. We both start at 7:30 so I don't want to go ALL the way back to my neck of the woods to go to my sons school.

Is a phone call appropriate? Or do I need to let her see my face? Sould I write a letter and send copies to the principal and the school board?

I need to CHECK this so called "educator". I can't just let this slide............

I will think this through this morning and make my decision this afternoon!!!


I can't let her think that this was o.k!!!

By the way, the girl that my son was supposed to take to the prom is hispanic. I forgot who asked in the comments...... I can't believe that as a minority, the girls mom did not back me up!!!! Then I found out form a friend who is from here, that the vice principal is black. She should have supported my decision as a minority as well!! With the statistics for black men and education being the way they are.....hmmmph makes me sad that she would question my decision as a responsible parent...............Sad.....really sad.........I have calmed down a bit. My grandma says that I shouldn't say anything DIRECTLY to the v.p because, well....I have been known to have a lil bit of a temper at times.......especially when it comes to my kids....My son said he was ashamed to be called over the loud speaker and pulled out of class for that.........

Do I write a letter sending several copies? Hmmmph i'm stuck y'all!!!


Blogger Nikki said...

I would write a letter to the school board as well as meet with the vice principal. The vice principal clearly overstepped her boundaries.

9:09 AM  
Blogger Slow Metamorphosis said...

I can not believe this mess! For nothing else that it being school...grades are important. Especially JUNIOR year thats what all the colleges look at! Are they really serious??? I would write a letter to the school board and I would go in to talk to the principal and the VP and let them know that their FIRST priority should be the child and their academic excellence and NOT no damn senior prom!

10:04 AM  
Blogger JaeZea said...

I certainly understand why it is upsetting to have your parenting skills questioned. I don't think you are right to sack his prom option, and dually right to bring it to the vice principal's attention that this matter is not in the least an area where the school should intervene. While I don't think that race should play a card in this matter, it is imperative to stress that regardless of minority statistics, education is vital period. You are a good example for moms out there who buckle when they shouldn't especially when it comes to grades! My mother never let me get away with having mediocre grades. If my grades dropped so did my social life. I agree with the comment Nikki made, the VP overstepped her boundaries. The Principal needs to know. You must go above the VP's head and tell the principal that last time you checked not letting someone go to the prom b/c they recieved bad grades was not listed as a form of child abuse nor endangerment of any kind. That the VP found time to call you on this matter is quite unnerving. Shouldn't she be busy busting kids smoking in the bathrooms anyway? These are just my two cents on the mater, but I hope you know that I strongly agree with you.

10:21 AM  
Blogger JaeZea said...

Oops...In the line where it reads " I don't think you were right to sack...I really mean to say You were right! My brain is still asleep...sorry!

10:23 AM  
Blogger Dee said...

the ONLY reason I mentioned race is because of the high drop out rate for African American males!!! There are more black men in prision than in college...that is sad....I feel that as a black woman, the v.p should have CLEARLY understood my point!!! I mentioned that she is black only for that reason.......
the reason I mentioned the girl is Hispanic because someone mentioned it in the comment section!!! I can't believe that ANY teenage girl would question a parents decision....especially someone they have never ever even met!!!!

10:38 AM  
Blogger Sheron said...

In my opinion, you should handle this situation in person. You should also compose a letter to present to the Vice Principal and copy the Principal and the Board of Education there too. She definitely needs to be CHECKED and reprimanded by her superiors as well. Take this to the top, Dee.

*still mad at the girl, her mom AND the vice principal*

1:53 PM  
Blogger princessdominique said...

I vote for "in person" too!

4:26 PM  
Blogger Myrah said...

You should meet with her in person but try not to go totally crazy because your son still has to go to school there and you don't want them making it harder for him. Some of his teachers may be the vp's friends and would take the vp's side and really give him a hard time for your actions. I know it's not right and you should be able to give her "what for" but keep in mind kids don't always get it enough to come home and tell you when someone at the school is being unfair or nasty.

8:56 PM  
Blogger Diva said...

Hey lady,
Go up there and handle this situation in person. It's so easy for them to totally disregard your concerns when it's "just letters and CC's" I, too, have quite a bit of a temper (esp. when it comes to my kids) but you have every right to go in there and point out her inept and inappropriate behavior. The bottom line is it's YOUR decision whether or not your son does ANYTHING, and they were so far out of line that even MY babies knew those two buffoons that call themselves parent and administrator were wrong. My initial question to them would be, "What right do you have to question any decision I make about my MINOR child?"
Girl, after they give me about 5 minutes of bullshit, I go into OKAY, THIS IS HOW IT'S GOING DOWN mode.
Their priorities are insanely off.
Kisses baby! Oh, I got your card today! Tag, I'm

9:26 PM  
Blogger Margaret said...

My vote is for speaking directly to the VP, but also let her know that you will raise this issue to those above her.

You have every right to be upset about her questioning your parenting skills, so don't let it slide.

10:53 PM  
Blogger G. Cornelius Harris said...

Write a letter to the sb is the best thing...I'll keep you posted

11:09 PM  
Blogger Slim said...

I think you should go and person, but followed by a letter. They need to know how serious you are about your sons grades!

8:39 AM  
Blogger muffin said...

whoa. i don't know what to say. i would say, do it in person, but document everything that is goin on.

8:44 AM  
Blogger Jazz said...

i've missed all this?

5:23 AM  
Blogger Rhonda said...

Girl I would have to do it in person. What in the hell is wrong with people today. Education comes first and I am totally upset at the VP! I have had to bitch out my daughters P because she didnt have my daughters best interest in mind.

10:46 AM  
Blogger Dayrell said...

hi dee. i've been following your story...and i agree with muffin. i think it's best for you to do everything in person. definitely!!! and document or record all that goes on, just in case some actions get out of line.

12:44 PM  
Blogger Furious said...

go in person. go to the frontlines and stand your position. honestly i dont even know why it warrants this much fucken discussion, yo. he's YOUR son and YOU dictate what he does. hell on all of them. and yes, i'd tell the damn school board on the V.P. for getting involved in that shit.

2:56 PM  
Blogger Lambchop said...

I think you should go in person too. The thing is, you arent going there to debate your decision or to even hear their side of things. You're going to tell the Principal (definitely go as far to the top as possible) that it was completely inappropriate to get involved in this situation.

That silly ass little girl better get used to disappointment. Life aint all roses and sunflowers. I'm really getting upset now so let me sign off of this!!

P.S. Dee, you know I got your back! Let me know if I need to call the Silly Ass Momma and tell her butt off!


10:44 AM  

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