Friday, July 22, 2005

Deception at it's finest!!!!

I have a wide variety of friends. White, Mexican, Asian, the whole melting pot. Some of my best friends are gay men. I have Lesbian friends as well as bi. I don't care what your sexual pref. is. I just care how you treat me as a friend. Who you sleep with me just doesn't matter!!!

Best friend has a cousin who just moved here from Oakland. She and her best friend moved here about two weeks ago. they visited us about 7 months ago and they liked San Diego soooo much they moved here!!! They are both hella cool to hang out with. FUNNY AS HELL!!! Jokes...shit more jokes than me!!! There is only one problem:

THEY ARE TRANSEXUALS!!!!

Yep you heard me right.......breast and DICKS!!!!! They both have more boobies than me....shit that's not hard though cause i'm a poor B cup!! LOL They wear more M.A.C. than I do! They dress really cute!!! Bad ass shoes and badder purses. And the accessories....L.A.W.D. They have great taste in earings, scarves, bags, shoes and belts.

So what's the problem? They have style......They are a lot of fun!!! The problem is they don't want to go to the "gay" clubs........they want to hang with us!!!! ALL THE TIME!!!! You see I have a real problem with them not telling men that they are M.E.N. I don't think that is cool!!!! San Diego is not small but it is......you know what I mean? The places I frequent I see the same people here and there!!! Small world!!!

They laugh and smile. Men buy them drinks and ask for their numbers. I Don't have a problem with that but they need to let theese men know that they have NUTS AND A DICK!!!! The incident that got to me was when we went out last weekend and one of my friends approached us.
Clueless: Dee who's your gurl? I never seen her before?

Me: that's best friends cousin. They just moved here from Oakland.

Clueless: Dee hook me up!!

Me: naaww I'm not in the biddness of match making

Clueless: c'mon Dee......let me and my boy take y'all to breakfast after the club.

Me: naaaw i'm cool

Clueless: well let's just go to my house for a few drinks.

Me: naaaw Clueless i'm cool!!!

He continued to try and push up on her/him ALL night. At the end of the night, she said "Dee are we gonna go to Clueless's house? Me and best friend said at the same time HELL NAW!!!! WE ARE GOING HOME!!!!!

THE PROBLEM IS THIS........I don't want to be a part of the trickery!!! Things could get really ugly!!! Once a man finds out he has been hoodwinked, led astray bamboozeled even, He might get a lil P.I.S.E.D. I don't want my car shot up or windows busted out!!!!!

I have had a few people ask me "is that a man"? "Is that what I think it is?" I go out to enjoy myself....I don't want to have to constanly explain their gender!!! You know? Best friend says I should just say nothing...........but saying nothing is saying it's O.K. right?

What do y'all think? This is really bothering me? Am I over reacting? Should I just keep my male friends away? Should I just stop kickin it with them? I feel really strong about DECEPTION AT IT'S FINEST!!!!!

27 Comments:

Blogger Nikki said...

I too would have a problem with these men not telling straight men that they are transexuals. Right away they're living a lie by not coming clean to these guys. Yes, I understand that people can be cruel, but being dishonest could lead to death in their case.

10:30 AM  
Blogger MeCrazyMe said...

Girl, time to call a meeting. Tell best friend and "T-One" and "T-Two" that they are playing dangerous game and that you will not be apart of it!

I don't think they see the big picture. That is like us being with a guy and then he tell you he has a pussy, after he has kissed and fondled you.

I don't think you are over reacting because these days people will get killed over shit like this. Just tell them how you feel and if they don't like it. Stay away from them because, believe me you don't want to be apart of this. I am on your side!

10:36 AM  
Blogger mrs.tj said...

that is a hard position to be in. i would tell them, that if they want to go out with me, then they need to be straight up - i don't think i would tell the other party cuz, little do we know, some of those dudes like that and they be trying to be down low.
Holla!

10:39 AM  
Blogger sonyared said...

Hell no girl! you are not over reacting at all. First of all the 2 friends are putting you in a tough predicament and they should know this shit...I don't care if they have nuts, bolts or whatever...they know the truth and biologically what they really are 100%...like you said it don't matter what sexual pref. but they are playing a dangerous game and they just gonna have to play that game by themselves..you know if a man finds out he's going postal...so dee u know what 2 do girl. Ooh this den go my heart rate up..LOL Hey you are looking out for you in this situation, they gotta find somewhere else to go not involving you.

11:06 AM  
Blogger Sheron said...

Your feelings are very much so justified. "T-One & T-Two" (LMAO @ mecrazyme's nicknames) should definitely disclose their gender info when meeting other guys. They are playing what could turn out to be a VERY dangerous game.

My opinion, don't hang out with them until they can learn to be honest with all potential suitors. Offer to go to gay clubs with them. If they decline, exclude them from future outings. Your safety comes first.

11:25 AM  
Blogger Margaret said...

Being that there are TONS of military in your area, the two new friends are asking for trouble~and so are the men who approach them!!

You know what Big Momma used to say:

'You are known by the company you keep'.

I can see someone getting hoodwinked, and blaming you, because you didn't 'inform' them. It is 'your' town, don't allow yourself to be sucked into the shennanigans.

As far as warning guys that are interested, all you have to do is tell ONE, and word will spread like wildfire!

11:55 AM  
Blogger Zantiferous3 said...

Unacceptable. And nothing good can come of it. As MEN they should know good and hell well what can happen if the ruse is uncovered. Lawd hamercy. I had this conversation with my husband the other day... because I love to ask 90809890808 "what if" questions, like, "What if I had one leg... would you still love me?" Stupid shit like that. ROFLMAO anyway, I asked him, what if, now, after we've been married for almost 2 years... he found out I was born a man. He said, "Well then man you'd have to die. And so would your mother, your brother, your aunt and everyone of your family members who went along with the charade all this time. *dead serious face* ROFLMAO so apparently that is SERIOUS shit to straight men. If I were you, I'd tell the Trannies that you have NO intention on keeping their secret and will tell any and everyone who asks you... and you'll tell your FRIENDS even if they don't ask. Just to be clear. THere is nothing wrong with that.

12:31 PM  
Blogger Butter Pecan said...

I would not even feel comfortable around them, knowing that they are leading men on. Being that you are hanging around them the first thing a man is gonna say to you is Dee, why didnt you tell me. I would stop hanging with them b/c its gonna lead to some real trouble sooner or later.

2:01 PM  
Blogger Dee said...

I offered to take them to "hillcrest" the gay part of town!!! They both responded "we don't do fags!!!" What the fuck??? What the hell are you two!!!! They are REALLY confused!!!

2:28 PM  
Blogger Nikki said...

Dee, it's probably best to not kick it with them at bars and clubs because of their antics. If you feel uncomfortable with the way the push up on straight men without acknowledging the fact that they are transexuals, then let it be known. Girl, you gotta speak up to them and tell them how you feel or else it will just continue whenever they are in your presence.

3:06 PM  
Blogger The Princess Herself said...

Hell. ass. naw.
I would tell your 2 'girlfriends' that they are on their own. Not because of their sexuality, but because of the deception behind trying to get what they want.

As for the people that question you about their gender
LOL --I saw it on a talk show--if they have an "apple" they have a "banana". Sheesh. talk shows!

3:08 PM  
Blogger coley said...

No you're not wrong for feeling the way you feel... I too think it's wrong for them to lie to people and deceive them!!! Plain and simple. I think you should tell them that, if they don't change their behavior... I would not hang out with them anymore! That's just me though.... Have a good weekend girlie!

4:42 PM  
Blogger Cutie Cola said...

Guuurl........you stay as far away from all that crap as you can. I agree strongly with msthing, tell them you ain't down with their buuullshit and you ain't trying to get caught up in their sick little game. That is no joke what they're doing, and they seem to think it's cool!

7:21 PM  
Blogger Organized Noise said...

I think you should tell them how you feel, that way, if you start to hang out with them less, they would understand.

7:53 PM  
Blogger Christopher Trottier said...

Ha ha ha! What an amusing post!

8:10 PM  
Blogger button_nose said...

Dee, let them know how you feel. If they want to continue their charade then fine that's on them....but you want no part of it. I believe like everyone here who commented that with the way things are today in our society it's a very dangerous game indeed.

To each it's own, but keep it real!

9:15 PM  
Blogger Daisy Mae said...

I wouldn't touch that with a 12 inch pole if I were you Dee. Nope, don't get in the middle of their deception, it could bite you in the ass.

It's gonna come out sooner or later that they are trans and you don't want to be in the middle of that. People do get freaked out when they think they have been decieved and especially in this kind of situation.

On the other hand let me say that I think you are a hell of a person to have such an outlook to be friends with people regardless of race, sex or religion. More people need to have your outlook on life. There are too many mean hateful people in this world.

Have a good weekend!

10:17 PM  
Blogger MVT said...

woooooaaah I wouldn't wanna be caught up in that either. I don't blame you.

10:54 PM  
Blogger Mr.Slish said...

Well well well...Guess who has more drama than Mr.Slish..Dee from Cali...Now you can stop leaving anonymous post in my comments...lol.

Thats right I found ya...The world is smaller than you know.

7:34 AM  
Blogger Mongooser said...

theres enough lying BS in the world without crap like that.

N yeah I reckon it would reflect on YOU (which is bogus but seems to be the way people think).

If they are straight up 'we dont hang with/do gays' you could come back with 'i dont 'do/hangwith lying tranny shits'

hell Jerry Springer has entire shows about how upset people get with that.

3:55 PM  
Blogger SMW said...

They said "They dont do fags."

Then what are they?

You have a most interesting group of friends Dee!

5:17 PM  
Blogger Kayla said...

I say, let them know you don't like what they're doing and you won't lie for them. It also may be a good idea not to go to places you frequent, if you still want to hang with them. That's dangerous what they are doing, because if the men find out, it will NOT be pretty.

7:54 PM  
Blogger exMI said...

Don't spend time with them because when the shit hits the fan you will get splattered too......

9:10 PM  
Blogger Lambchop said...

I too have gay friends/family members, and a transsexual cousin. Now, much as I love him/her, I couldnt condone him hoodwinking some dude into thinking that he's truly a woman in my presence. That's some "Crying Game" ish, and 9 times out of 10, real life doesnt end with the unsuspecting straight man saying, "What the hell is that??!!! Aww hell naw! Umm.... Well, I really luv you so...I guess just this once...if you dont tell anyone...."

It's really dangerous and you dont want these men bringing their issues and anger back to your door when they find out their ego and rep has been bruised!

Not saying dont hang with them, just saying be on guard and bring this issue up to them so they know how you feel. If they cant respect it, or if they get pissed you may not want to fool with them anyway.

Sorry for the post in a post!!
Blessings!
Chops~

7:30 AM  
Blogger Queue said...

"Woosaaa" *Rubbing my pressure points*

Okay here's my advice - TELL ON THEY ASSES!!!!

No really - I would tell all my boys so they would know - if your boys are cool with the down low thing - they'll hunt them up if they want to and everybody can be as oblivious as they want to. And in general you would be better off hanging with them outside of the club (ideally just at the crib- where you know everybody who comes in thurr) and aviod any other places people know you and put your face to your rep. Don't take them to your favorite poetry spot, don't go chill at the local coffee shop - none o dat- I don't care how funny and cool they are. They have just proven how Funny they really are and its so not cool to not be real about that - especially with Straight men - You don't even want to get them started. Let them know you all can be cool but you can't contribute to the down low - whether the victim is male or female.

2:41 PM  
Blogger Myrah said...

oh no I couldn't roll like that! That is trouble just waiting to happen!!!

9:38 PM  
Blogger Nia said...

Ok...I'm late on this post. Butummerahhh...HELLLLLL NAH! I wouldn't hang with them anymore. Cool to hang with is one thing, but I like living drama free. Putting myself in the position of the men...if I found out some guy I was talking to had the same goodies I had I might just...well let's not say what I might do. Point is, whatever it is would involve everyone that ever even saw me talking to the creature.

5:20 AM  

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