Tuesday, July 26, 2005

Things really open your eyes......

after the tragic death of my neighbor. I have been in "cloud" so to speak! When something tragic happens....it shakes you!!! I am S.H.A.K.E.N. I have to make sure my boys know what to do if something should happen to me!!!! They didn't want to talk about it but we had to!!!!

I don't spend the night out often....when I do I always call James before he goes to bed!!! I tell him I will be home before he wakes up!!! I asked them both what would they do if ever they woke up and I was NOT in my room?.....What would they do if I was NOT AWAKE by noon? Do they know who to call 1st? Do they know how to call the Red Cross so the Navy can contact their dad who is in Italy. They need to know theese things cause we are here alone!!! We have good friends but no family!!! My best friends have all my family contact numbers......I A.L.W.A.Y.S. let someone know where i'm going....no matter how grown i'm trying to be!!! Even if I go out for a late nite "naked" call.....I let best friend know where i'm going...if it's too late I send her a text!!! All my friends know that if I do stay out....I get home before the boys wake up!!!!

Tragedy makes you look at things in a WHOLE new light!!! I can't stop living my life but it scares me!!!! I need to do my living will over again..........now that I am divorced!!!! What would happen to my babies if something tragic happened to me?


Blogger Msnhim said...

Unfortunately it takes something like this to make you think about what would happen to your kids if something happened to you.., I must admit I need to start thinking about this myself.

11:20 AM  
Blogger Nikki said...

You hate to think about things like that happening, but the best thing you did was to prepare them just in case.

I remember my mother having a talk with my brother and I one day about where her safety deposit key was, will, etc. All of that kinda creeped me out at the time, but I know she was preparing us for that "just in case" factor.

12:00 PM  
Anonymous Juanita said...

You got me thinking Dee...I am a single momma too and although my family is here I need to leave a will or something stating that I want babygirl to live with them. The last thing I would want is for my baby's donor to appear out of thin air and claim that he is entitled to take her away after years of not seeing her. Looks like I will be hitting the books and then finding out how to leave a written will and testament--*sigh* I hate to think about things like this but you are right. Hope you are better today!

1:16 PM  
Blogger Butter Pecan said...

Girl I never thought about things this way. You now hav me thinking what my girls would do w/o me. I'm glad I've read your post. Reminds me to always let someone close know where I am going. I always let my kids know momma will be back home before you get up just like you. Just stay in touch with someone close to you.

4:32 PM  
Blogger button_nose said...

God I know exactly how you feel....I get so scared sometimes and wonder about the future and what it holds for my baby and I....I want to be there to experience his first kiss, date,
first love, and of course hopefully get married and have a beautiful wife and children....I want to see my grandchildren. If I'm suppose to go before my baby I hope he's a grown man. But you're absolutely right we should talk to our children about it.

Great post Dee!

Keep ya head up :)

6:01 PM  
Blogger Sheron said...

We should all stay in "just in case" mode and 1. always let someone know where we are at all times and 2. prepare others for that dreaded day...

It's beautiful that you've taken time out to make sure your kids know what to do in case of an emergency. This is commendable in this day and time when so many parents barely communicate with their kids at all.

6:55 PM  
Blogger sonyared said...

Yeah...it's crazy that we have to even think about these type of things. The only thine we can do is prepare ourselves and children to just be careful as can be and always be in there lives to make proper decisions. Other than that we can just pray /be thankful for the new day we have each day. This world is crazy

7:18 PM  
Blogger Daisy Mae said...

I think about stuff like that too. It's only natural to think like that because we are moms. And I think woman think about that stuff more than men do. Women like to be prepared. It starts when the baby is in our womb and we get the nesting instinct.

Hey Dee, have you heard any more on the position you applied for? I've got my fingers crossed for you.

I know it's hard but try not to let your neighbors death bum you out too much. Her children are in my prayers.

9:04 PM  
Blogger mrs.tj said...

My friends think I am paranoid when I make them get "new" guys liscense plate #'s and give them to me. Then when they try to go out to a club in a different city, i be like - let me talk to him. I ask him all kinds of info. Name, address, plate #, phone #'s, and soical security #. They ALWAYS give it to me. I put it in my purse and if I don't hear what I need to hear when I need to hear it. Call the police, YEAH RIGHT! Me and my crew are coming to get you!!!

6:07 AM  
Blogger ltlme said...

I think most people take life for granted until something tragic occurs close to home.
It doesn't take a shooting to leave loved ones behind. Something could happen while you're driving your car, crossing the street, etc. If I passed away, I would be leaving two cats behind, but I still have it planned on who's home they would go to.
As the cliche goes, plan for the worst, hope for the best.

8:55 AM  
Blogger Lambchop said...

Once again, what happened to your neighbor makes my heart hurt. But you're definitely doing the right thing in ensuring your boys are well prepared.


12:49 PM  
Blogger CousinSarah said...

Dee, having kids can put things in such a different light. My 4 year old is just starting to understand the concept of things being "dead" but doesnt grasp the concrete absence of it. So, I just try to take opportunities to teach him as best I can about being safe and what to do. It is hard to have those conversations and it is not easy to get out of that scared place. I seriously wish the news would stop reporting every single kidnapping and child molester as I get ready to send him to public pre-school. i dont believe it happens more now that it did, just seems to be the new media trend. But, it is always good to be prepared and it is always good practice to have others know where you are. I am like a crazy woman when ones I love are dating someone new. I want ALL INFORMATION concerning who it is. :) You just never know.

I got this interesting email about putting a phone number entry in your phone labeled ICE meaning in case of an emergency contact so that if the police came to the scene of an accident or something, it would be easy for them to find who is the contact for you in an emergency if you were unable to tell them.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Take care and be safe.

8:53 AM  

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