Thursday, August 04, 2005

I should have known!!!!!

Last nite I woke up to the the show C.H.E.A.T.E.R.S. I fell asleep with the t.v on.

Now why is this a big deal you may ask? CHEATERS WAS THE LIARS favorite show!!!! He would wake me up and say "babe look at this" when some good episode was on. If we were not in the same bed.....he would call me and say "babe, turn to channel 5.......it's a good one tonight". He would even record the "good" episodes to play in his truck!!!!!

Anyone who gets that excited over a show that catches LIARS in the act of cheating..........

I SHOULD HAVE KKNOWN HE WAS A FUCKING LIAR!!!!!

HELLO ANYONE WHO LOVES A CHEATING SHOW THAT MUCH..........................

I guess all theese feelings came out because I talked to the "liars" best friends girlfriend. I have not spoken to her since the big break up!!!! I just wanted to seperate myself from all that had to do with THE LIAR. She e-mailed me and I replied. She responded back quick. wrote back and she replied call me at work.

I called her at work. This is the convo:

me: hey lady how are you? How are the kids?

liars.friend: we are all good! Me and "the liars friend" just got back together!

me: oooh I hope it works out!!!

liars.friend: we broke up in May.

me: Well I know you know about me and the LIAR by now!!!

liars.friend: yeah well gurl he's not worth it.

me; I will be fine!!! I was hurt for a while but i'm getting better!!!

liars.friend: Dee I hope we can still hang out!!! I told "liars.boy that I miss your company.

me: we will do better at keeping in touch!!! I lost my phone and I need your number again!!!

liars.friend: please do Dee......

I just have a lil problem because I know she knew!!!! She is the LIARS best friends gurl!!! I'm sure he brought that other chick around and i'm sure she knew he is married!!!! I know it's not her responsibility to tell me that the LIAR aint shit!!!!! Just like it's not my job to tell her her man aint shit!!! He has introduced me to SEVERAL chicks.........

I wou,ld rather just seperate myself.....it's not my business to tell her shit!!! Just like it was not her business to tell me shit!!! You know? I remember me the LIAR and liars best friend were out one nite and he said to me: "I don't have a future with her!!! Look she has THREE kids and an ex-husband!!!! I ame 36 single with no KIDS......why would I want to be with her the rest of my life?" Me and LIAR talked about it all the way home......I feel bad cause she has no clue!!!!!

Am I wrong for staying away? I know it's not my place cause we only met through the guys but dam......I feel bad cause she is ALL INTO HIS ASS!!!!! I know he thought that when me and the LIAR broke up that I would tell!!!!! Naaw I don't want anyone to hurt!!!!!! She is cool as hell to kick it with!!!!!

DO I MAINTAIN OUR FRIENDSHIP KNOWING?

Does that make me a LIAR?

28 Comments:

Blogger MEP said...

Hmmm, that's a tough one. I guess it depends on how much you value your friendship with her. I think it would be hard to be friends with her and not tell. Could you really be her girl and NOT tell her? If you don't want to be "that girl" by getting in the middle of things, then it's probably best not to get involved at all - even by being her friend.

8:28 AM  
Blogger Nikki said...

Mep is right. You cannot be friends with someone knowing what you know. Real friends just don't let things like that slide. Hell, I would want to know if someone I considered to be a good friend of mine witheld that kinda info, I wouldn't trust them any longer.

8:44 AM  
Blogger mrs.tj said...

for one, I probably wouldn't be her friend - if she considered you are "real" firend she would have told you.
2. even if she thinks you are her friend and you tell her - she will be mad at you , like they normally are. thinking you are lying, hatin and spitting salt. you have to let her learn on her own.
3. NO MORE DRAMA! you know you will be sucked in. Oh Lord. We do not need that!
Holla!

9:14 AM  
Blogger Schatzi said...

My 2 cents...

Up until now, it sounds like y'all have been "acquaintances". Meeting thru your (ex)boyfriends. But now that the "liar" is out of the picture, if you continue communication with her.. It will be a "friendship". And you won't feel comfortable being friends knowing what you know.

When me and my ex separated.. I let it all go. I didn't want to run into him (by accident or what have you) or even hear about him. It was best for me to just cut all ties.

Good luck!

9:16 AM  
Blogger MeCrazyMe said...

I would sort of kinda give her a hint, explain to her that I think it's best that we don't even hang out or be friends.

I personally would feel like a liar and since I don't like liars I would just leave it alone.

You know how woman are if you tell her your damned, if you don't your damned. So do you keep away and just chill, you don't need someone elses drama in your life. Worry about you, so when shit hit the fan that will be one less problem you have to deal with cause you wouldn't have nothing to do with it.

9:23 AM  
Blogger Dee said...

She is hella cool! I think it's best we just cut ties cause I can't just sit back and watch.....even though she is just an aquaintance.....I tend to use the word "friend" freely!!!

Everyone is a friend until you "fuck" up!!!!

She knew about the "LIAR" and his antics!!!

Think I better let it go!!!!

9:24 AM  
Blogger courtneyelizabeth said...

damn...that's toughie....i say you keep it to yourself and find another "friend"...cause if she KNEW and didnt tell you, she's not being a good friend. and if you KNOW and dont tell her and try to have a friendship, things could get kinda rocky....just let things be....

9:44 AM  
Blogger Aziza said...

Hey Dee. This is a tough situation like others have mentioned.

You may want to maintain a distant and general friendship with the friend's girlfriend. You may want to talk about general stuff with her. But it seems to me that it would hurt you to be close friends with her, because she probably would be constantly telling you stuff about your ex, which could make it hard for you to move on with your life. That could rob you of your fresh start.

Plus, if you start to get serious about a new guy, will she run back and tell the guys about your business? I doubt that you would want them to be up all in your business.

And with regard to her about her man, I wouldn't say anything to her about his possible cheating. Most women say that they would want to know if their man was cheating on them, but some get mad with the messenger of that news. Then you'd have your ex, his friend, and her giving you grief. I sense that you just want to move on and be happy.

10:07 AM  
Blogger Rhonda said...

Well what it sounds like to me is that this girl is not a friend anyway and that is ok, but if you start hanging out with her and she becomes your friend your in a sticky situation. You havent talked to her in this long and she wasn't an asset to begin with so if it were me - I would just leave it the way it has been and keep the past in the past.

Good Luck!

10:39 AM  
Blogger brooklyn babe said...

Who's the say, that she does not already know???? I mean really.
We females are the first to no one someone is not right for us, but may still go along for the bumpy ride anyways, its hopes that it will get smoother... if these two had already broken up before, surely some kind of red flags had to go off in her mind, long before you even got wind of his mention.

Just my .02

11:01 AM  
Blogger Call 2 Arms said...

I agree with the others. But I also see the other side. If she had told you she didn't know what you might do. You might confront him, tell him where you got the info, then she would have been the one to create mess between liar and his friend.

11:23 AM  
Anonymous golden said...

STAY AWAY!

nuff said.

11:44 AM  
Blogger muffin said...

are your pants on fire????

11:46 AM  
Blogger Msnhim said...

I agree with Sudani, I’m sure she knows already.

As far as the friendship part, tuff call. I have a few people that I chill with that are cool and fun to hang out with but I wouldn't call them friends.

Friends to me are people you confide in. Someone who knows your secrets, you know theirs. If this is someone you just want to go to a bar with and chill no big deal but I would not classify her as a "friend" and I would not treat her as such given her access to the LIAR.

11:57 AM  
Blogger sonyared said...

Well, it depends on how close you two were. If you two were like sisters and very close friends I understand you feeling like this...but no it doesn't make u a liar, you are just avoiding more drama. She obviously didn't tell u (probably out of the same confusion u have)...so u don't have to worry about anything girl. Yes it seems like a good idea to cut ties just to avoid the drama and wondering..about if she is a liar(then u definitley don't need to hang)and just go on about your life and not worry about her thing...she didn't when it came to you and u to are primarily just acquaintences. Your good to go girl! :-)

12:19 PM  
Blogger Daisy Mae said...

Everyones right on target with their assessment and I have to agree. she's made her choice to not be one of your girls because she didn't tell you. Your girls don't do you like that.

1:01 PM  
Blogger E_1979 said...

get liars friend girl to doubt liars friend with insinuation.... but not outright some sleep on it comment to where she thinks the thought originates in her own brain .... then she will come to you asking you well what do you think about liars friend... then you tell her ... then you would have got revenge..... *muhahahaha*
but whatever you do ... don't just give out the information cuase then she will think you are just desperate.... but revenge is sweet *muahahahahaha*

1:15 PM  
Blogger Cutie Cola said...

Dee, I am in the same situation you are right now! A very old friend of mine (about 20yrs) had a baby for this dude that she thinks is her knight in shining armour. He seemed cool when I met him and she was soooo happy she had finally found love......anyway, to make a long story short, about a month after she had the baby this motherfucker called me (got my number off her caller id) and told me that he liked me and he wanted to be with me!! Of course I cussed his ass out and told him don't ever call my number again. I haven't told her because I don't think this is something she needs to hear after just having a baby for this man. I think I will tell her eventually, but I really don't want to be the one to break up their relationship.

4:04 PM  
Blogger MeCrazyMe said...

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5:36 PM  
Blogger MeCrazyMe said...

I just love topics that have a lot of comments and opinions, keep posting.

5:37 PM  
Blogger WIP said...

*Entering the conversation "hella" late* I think after all this sage advice, I tend to ditto what "Schatzi" said. I also have a few words I live by: Don't look back because if you do you might get set back, or turned into a pillar of salt like Lot's wife.

Are you sure hanging with her was so cool due to the other company you kept (meaning the times with your ex-liar)? Those times may have been good ones and left you with some great memories when all of y'all kicked it. But, things have changed and she may not have been the "hella cool" you were experiencing after all. Sometimes we "tolerate" the SO (significant other) of people our SO associates with. In retrospect we think that we would never hang out with them had it been on different terms.

Okay, I'm all out of cents.

7:22 PM  
Blogger Spike Zee said...

It does not make you a liar. By keeping it to yourself, you simply are keeping yourself from getting caught up in any additional drama. Keep it in the closet. Maintain the friendship with her if you believe that you and her are true friends.

1:34 AM  
Blogger Meka said...

"I know it's not her responsibility to tell me that the LIAR aint shit!!!!! "

I tend to disagree when it comes to things like that. If she did indeed know I think it was her responsibility as a woman to tell you that the guy you were seeing was married. It's called integrity. If she had it she wouldn't have thought twice about telling you. I don't think I would be able to hang with her. Good luck!

5:57 AM  
Blogger Slow Metamorphosis said...

Damn Dee that is a hard one.

If you and her do end up hanging out and chilling and all that it may be hard not to tell her. If you hang with her and she proves to be sincere and you like her --- if she asks then tell her. She deserves to know. I wouldnt want my friend walking around all into a dude who is playing her....

7:37 AM  
Blogger Closet Owner said...

Move on.

HHFCO: You would have never met her if not for the Liar... So she was in you life by default. Move on.

8:51 AM  
Blogger Icylyrics said...

If you feel you can maintain a friendship with her without getting 'caught up' then hang, but if it's constantly on your mind, as it seems it will be, might be best to keep her as an acquaintance but nothing more.
You are not a liar by holding onto something that you simply don't want to be caught up in, unless of course someone's life is in danger, then that puts a whole different spin on the sitaution. Best of luck to you.

9:09 AM  
Blogger coley said...

DAYUM!!!! I'm sorry I'm all late with this comment! I swear, you miss one day from the blog world and it's all bad...

That's a tough situation, If it was me ... I'd probably distance myself from her! That way you can truely move on, and not have to be reminded of the situation!

11:24 AM  
Blogger Nia said...

As far as a friendship nah I don't think that's possible because yall two started off on the wrong foot. But let her know her man isn't shit. Women have a tendency to see another woman drowning in the same puddle that they were just in and walk on by. I know its not your business, I mean she probably won't believe you, but just think back wouldn't you have rather she said something to you up front.

Damn I'm late with this one...lol

7:17 AM  

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