Thursday, November 03, 2005

Maybe i'm just old school......

My friends funeral was yesterday!!! It was a nice service......It made me really sad to see her kids faces. Her mom handled it well!!! Her 2 brothers and step dad were fine too!!! I got up and spoke about what her friendship meant to me!!!! I felt I had to!!!!

Here is the problem!!!!!! Is there no "dress code" for church?????
I understand that we no longer have to wear black to funerals!!!! Black is for mourning and sadness. A lot of people consider funerals a "going home celebration" and white and other colors are worn now....o.k i'm o.k. with that!!!!

Tank tops................

club dresses.....................

shorts.....................

lacey tops..........................

open toed shoes.......................

hooker heels..............................

leather pants,skirts............................

jeans......................

Where i'm from, you dress a certain way in church. Funeral or wedding or even baptisim.............I know you are supposed to "come as you are" but DAM!!!! I could not stop looking and shakin my head!!!!

AM I JUST OLD SCHOOL OR HAVE THE TIMES CHANGED THAT MUCH???

OR IS IT AN EAST COAST WEST COAST THING??????

WHAT DO YOU THINK?????

14 Comments:

Blogger Dee said...

I know you are to "come as you are" but dam!!!

10:24 AM  
Blogger Sonnyredd said...

I have never seen such at any funeral I've been to...but I've heard of this happening. So I'll have to assume that this is a West Coast thing.

And that not wearing black thing...nah, folks better all be like a will smith-tommy lee jones movie at my funeral.

10:26 AM  
Anonymous call2arms said...

I went to a wedding and the outfits were unspeakable. Folks had either just left the club or were on their were. I couldn't figure out where they came from and I figured with so many tasteless guests, the gifts were probably horrible.

6:16 PM  
Blogger Slim said...

I would have to agree! I mean I am not old enough to be old school. But I think appearance is everything and there is a time and a place for tank tops, jeans and hooker heels. But I know what you mean because at my great grandmothers funeral, this dude walked in with a lime green suit with a pimp hat. I for one was blinded by his loud suit but that was just wayyyy too much for a funeral. So I would have to agree times have changed!!!!!

6:19 PM  
Blogger Organized Noise said...

At my grandmothers funeral back in September there were no jeans, no sneakers, no boots or anything. The men in the family wore grey and the women wore cream/white. Everyone else was dressed to a "T". I totally believe in showing respect for the dead. Hell, we even wore slack and dress shoes for the wake.

7:05 PM  
Blogger Groove said...

Wow, I have never heard of things being that drastic but things sure have changed, Some people wear here cut it real close.

But there are rules in our Family...

You better not let my momma catch one of her girls in church with a "Back out" Dress on, or with out something on those legs...(panty hose or nylons)

I went to a funeral yesterday, and I will be at one again tomorrow, and I will be wearing Black

8:30 PM  
Blogger Jaimie said...

That's just tacky.

9:38 PM  
Blogger defiant goddess said...

I think times have changed. But I've also heard that west coast is much more lax than the rest of the country.

11:44 PM  
Blogger African girl, American world said...

That is disrespect and a lack of home training! Nothing to do with ols school and new school - folks should know better!

5:30 AM  
Blogger mrs.tj said...

I have seen it happen in the Midwest. I was shocked when I saw casual dress at a wake, but when I saw it at a funeral I was straight out puzzeled. Basically I think we have to chop it down to respect.
Holla!

5:54 AM  
Blogger MeCrazyMe said...

I have not seen this at a funeral or wedding, but Church for me on Sunday doesn not consist of big hats and gowns. Most Preachers today say: WHo says you have to dress up to hear the word. When you get to heaven and standing before God, he isn ot going to ask you where is your big hat and nice suit.

Sorry to hear about your friend. I know that must have been hard. Her soul is in a greater place than you will ever know. You will see her again when your time here has ended.

6:05 AM  
Blogger Brandi said...

I can understand your thinking and I so agree with you. There is a time and place for everything and church is not the time for a club dress!

7:40 AM  
Blogger Butter Pecan said...

Ok. What in the world is going on. Where I'm from there is a dress code for every occassion. Black for funerals and hooker shoes and club dress are strictly for the club, should not be worn anywhere near a church. Jeans, tennis shoes, tank tops, wear that at home or after the funeral, not to the funeral. Seems like times are changing in some places.

12:50 PM  
Blogger BajanQueen said...

I believe there is a time and place for everything....Give respect where respect is due!

A funeral should not be come as you wish....have a little respect for the family, and yourself....HELLO!

This is just me!

~Smooches~

6:01 PM  

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