Thursday, March 09, 2006

DAM I'm feeling OLD!!!!!!

My baby turned 18 yesterday!!!!!! Dam I feel OLD!!!!!

It seems like yesterday he was born..........TIME FLIES!!!!!!

We have a birthday tradition where the birthday boy pics his favorite place and we go for dinner. James had a game at 7 last night so I decided we would do lunch and have a heart to heart without the little nosey one!!!!! LOL My 13 year old is soooooo NOSEY!!!!!

I pick James up from school at 12:30..........he gets out early because he has all the credits he needs to graduate......we went to T.G.I.Fridays and have lunch and just talk............It was nice!!! I mean I always tlk with the boys but this was really nice cause it was just US!!!! I always try and give my boys individual time but it's hard with his work schedule and his "SOCIAL" life........

We ate and chit chatted about his future, how he feels about his dad. His role as the man of the house................(when my ex and I seperated before the divorce he told James he was the "man" of the house now. that really stuck) He takes it serious. I listened and felt really good!!!! I mean really good. I know there is still work to be done but at least a god foundation has been laid!!!! I was able to buy him a couple of outfits(yes he's a male version of me.....LOL) I also gave him a card with some lottery scratchers.........he couldn't wait to turn 18 and play lotto.........HE WON $116 AND TWO FREE TICKETS.............He said "MOM I SOULD GO TO THE CASINO. I'M LUCKY TODAY"

James is my ROCK at times.......he is an awesome son!!!! I sat down to write him a birthday letter........I wanted to remind him of my dreams for him and what adulthood/manhood really means!!!!

I want him to:

Respect himself and others
treat women like he would want me to be treated
be honest
be kind
stay true to himself
be considerate
be strong yet compassionate
be a hardworker
be the best man he can be...........................

THEN IT HIT ME...............................


I try not to get on the computer that much because "blogging" can consume HOURS if you let it!!!!!! Just because i'm home i don't want my WHOLE day to be spent on the computer..........

You all have a GREAT day!!!!!! I'm gonna try!!!!!


Anonymous Nikki said...

Your baby's a man. It's great that you two could dine together and build.

He's gonna make you proud. But heck, he already does. *smile*

6:46 AM  
Blogger Hali said...

That is great Dee. It sounds like you have done a really good job. I think it is that much harder trying to raise a boy to a man alone. I hope that I will be able to be a great mother to my son as well. You have a great day too.

6:57 AM  
Blogger chele said...

Congrats on raising such a wonderful man!

7:08 AM  
Blogger Brandi said...

Happy Birthday JAMES!

It's so nice you got some alone time together!

You have made him into a wonderful man!

7:14 AM  
Blogger P said...

An 18 year old strong black compassionate young man is a goldmine. It's what our family and foundation should be built on. . .

7:16 AM  
Blogger Honest said...

Wow you're lil' man is growing up. Great letter. Good Luck to James.

8:44 AM  
Blogger NegroPino™ said...

Happy Birthday James!!!!!!!!

8:54 AM  
Blogger Sharon said...

Dee I so feel you on this post as my little boy is well on his way to being a man as well...

It is soooooooo indescribable to look at this MAN standing before you and remember the baby you held so many years before.

I don't believe in coincidences, so it is not lost on me that James' 18th birthday comes at a time in your life when you are not as sure of yourself as you usually are. To my way of thinking, this is God's way of placing right in your face where you can NOT miss it, the BEST EXAMPLE of how fabulous you really are! The best measure of ourselves as a person, is the people we help to create.


9:41 AM  
Blogger said...

Just stopping by to say hey!
I know your raised your son right.
Sometimes people try to parent when the child is in their teens not realizing that the child is already a little person and has already formulated ideas on life and morals. Sounds like you been a parent from day 1! CONGRATULATIONS!
Any news on the job front?

9:41 AM  
Blogger Slow Metamorphosis said...

Aww that is so great. Well you know he is all those things because you of you. You are amazing and so the kids will follow. Damn 18 huh -- he is a grown man now mama

9:55 AM  
Blogger Slim said...

It must feel good to know that you are doing a good job. He sounds like a very nice young man!

10:07 AM  
Blogger TTD said...

yes.. blogging really can consume u.. happy belated to your son!

10:46 AM  
Blogger Msnhim said...

You should br proud of yourself for raising such a GOOD man. You go girl!!!!!

12:21 PM  
Blogger Icey said...

Awwwww! They do grow up super fast. My 17 year old graduated high school an entire semester early and she is working and preparing for college and it is just too much. I brag about her all the time because she is such a great young lady. It is even more rewarding because she was not suppose to be so successful already.

Congratulations to you for doing a great job and to your young man for absorbing it all in!

12:43 PM  
Blogger Single Ma said...

Hi Dee - just catching up on your blog. Sorry to hear about your situation. In each post, you sound like you're feelin much better. I hope so!

You're doing an excellent job with your boys and that letter was very sweet. I'm sure he'll remember every one of your requests for the rest of his life.


4:47 PM  
Blogger Ms. Behavin' said...

That letter is beautiful!! Kudos to you for being a great Mom and raising a black male child into a strong black man!! Work it out, Lawd knows we need them!!
TRUTH BE TOLD - I NEED to find a 30-sumthin' year old MAN that was raised by a Momma like you. :-)

6:18 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

Happy Birthday James! He sounds like he's grown to be a very respectful man :-)

6:21 PM  
Anonymous melinda said...

GO DEE!! Happy birthday James. Lord have mercy 18, 7 more years for me and i already get upset thinking about D turning 18!

9:51 PM  
Blogger The Sarccastik Variable Why said...

that's great...he's a man now...he's gonna do you proud...

6:29 AM  
Blogger LUVIN ME said...

I know it feels good to see the "fruits of your labor!"

6:58 AM  
Blogger Closet Owner said...

Stay up...great job with the man you raised.

If I was at home, I would become the blog king of the universe.

Nah, I would be to busy with internet porn.

9:23 AM  
Blogger Honey-Libra said...

You have done well...he is a reflection of the wonderful mother and person you are (I'm sayin all that and I don't even know you lol) but for real glad he's bring you joy...I'm sure that just as you are proud of him he is of you. Tell him Happy Birthday

12:09 PM  
Blogger TheOneandOnlyInsanely said...

Thats so beautiful.
Gettin me all misty eyed...

9:32 PM  
Blogger Rose said...

I know it is such a beautiful feeling to raise a child that you are so proud of. Great job! Happy birthday James...

10:02 PM  
Blogger That Girl Tam said...

Dang...I don't want my babies to grow up...I just want them to be tall enough to grab the cereal boxes from on top of the frig with a chair...then they can stop RIGHT THERE!!

Happy B-Day to your Baby Boy...(I forgot to wish him a happy b-day when we spoke the other night...I had WAY too much going on when I called!)

2:53 AM  
Blogger Aziza said...

Happy Belated Birthday to your son!!!!.... *smile*

5:45 AM  
Blogger Rhonda said...

Hope James had a wonderful birthday!

Good Job Dee! You deserve a pat on the back girl.

10:33 AM  

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